Even positive labels like ‘good girl’ can be unhelpful for our children. Val Mullally discusses the dangers of labelling our children.
A Young Mother’s Experience: I was aware that something was wrong when Hannah was 24 hours old. On being discharged from the hospital we had been given a checklist of symptoms that required immediate contact with the hospital. In the past 6 hours Hannah’s nappies had become offensive to anyone with a nose in the surrounding neighbourhood! Following the hospital’s instructions we made contact.
Pay attention to how your child explains his successes and failures. She may need your guidance in modifying that view.
Parenting Tip: Encourage your child’s efforts rather than just the finished product. Why this matters.
When Emotions Get Heated
‘Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.’ (Albert Einstein)
We may be stuck in repeating unhelpful patterns of behaviour in our Parenting. Here’s how to make a significant shift when emotions get heated.
“I hate you!” Spat from the mouth of the toddler or teenager, those words can erode the confidence of any parent.
It’s tempting to react. Fight back or disappear into our own shell when so blatantly under attack.
Anita’s song captures all our mothering worries, whether we say them out loud or if they’re the thoughts chasing through our heads. Mothers seem to be programmed to be continually asking questions about the child’s welfare.
We forget these questions have a ‘sell-by’ date.
As Parents there’s times when we really need our children to listen to our instructions. Parent Coach Val Mullally gives some practical inisghts and tips on how to talk so kids will be able to HEAR what we’re trying to communicate – and respond.
Parent Contradicts
What effect does it have on children when they receive conflicting messages?
Supermum runs round doing everything for this child. Imagine this same child on her first day at school. Where’s Mummy?
